Wednesday pondering – on sticks and stones

A minute ago I bumped into a link that made me smile, although the smile carried a huge load of sadness. You can see it here – The article is about the Bikers Against Child Abuse International. Briefly, it talks about a large number of bikers who have made it their own business to protect children against those who abuse them in any way. Their motto is quite a wonderful one – “No child deserves to live in fear.” – and when reading it, I realized that actually no being at all, not just children, should live in fear. This connected to the fact that just the other day I happened to watch a video related to a campaign against domestic violence, and somehow, despite today’s morning being a very peaceful one for me (or maybe precisely because of that) I knew that today I should “ponder” on the violence applied to any being at all. Starting with

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But names will never hurt me…

Not true. A name can hurt just as badly as a physical hit. Besides, violence doesn’t have to be loud. Doesn’t have to be often. “Once” is already too much when it comes to this topic. And even the tiniest whisper loaded with violence is much louder than the loudest scream of joy. Because violence is pain – cumulated pain. The pain of the victim, the pain of the aggressor (oh yes, the aggressor has its own share of pain, even if in a twisted way), the pain of the direct or indirect witnesses…Do not make the mistake, my dear reader, to believe that violence needs to be physical in order to inflict pain – there are words that can cut deeper than the sharpest knife and there are hisses that slash your heart and make it bleed. There are gazes that are able to freeze the air in your lungs and backs that seem to bring the end of the world when they are turned to you.

The “why” behind the violence is irrelevant. Scientists have striven to understand the facts that trigger violent attitudes among people, and have classified them, dissected them, attempted to explain or justify them, but beyond all that one thing remains the most important of all: violence SHOULD NOT occur at all, under no possible form. Not against children, not against other people, not against any other being. Nothing justifies its happening, not even revenge – and here I can delightfully quote Mahatma Gandhi: “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” And as a personal observation to that, I doubt that this Universe would appoint a general ophthalmologist for such a degenerate race as ours…


© 2013 Liliana Negoi


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